Your Circle

Realizing some of the people in my “circle” aren’t really cheering me on has been one of the hardest reality checks I’ve faced.

Having a parent not show interest in my life has been heart breaking. I have three children, yet my parent never asks about them. I’ve published two books my parent has never read. I can’t understand why.

People I considered my very best friends have suddenly stopped communicating. No matter what I try, there is distance between us that I cannot figure out how to repair.

For the longest time, I would beat myself up trying to figure out what was wrong with me. I was convinced it was my fault. I must have screwed something up to make things feel so bad.

As I’ve gotten older, however, I’ve begun to realize that sometimes people just change. For whatever reason, they simply aren’t the same. So the relationship changes.

It’s a hard lesson to accept, but I’ve learned it’s important to continually search for those people who truly want to be part of my circle and let go of those who no longer want to be. Every time someone has left my circle, someone new has come a long to make my circle even stronger.

Holding onto someone who doesn’t want to be held hurts us more than anything else. Learning to let go brings us freedom and allows us to find those who truly care.

Check your circle. Fill it with those who cheer the loudest. And be sure to cheer loud for them in return!

20 thoughts on “Your Circle

  1. The Eclectic Contrarian September 13, 2019 — 10:40 am

    Heather, it might sound silly but I’ve felt like a wolf calling out for others on this blog. And there’s a lot of people who have reached out to me. But time has really tested things. Over the last couple of months I’ve sat back and been quiet. Not entirely on purpose because it came kind of naturally. But I’ve felt like I’ve reached and reach and called, of those who have answered and came, who would stay with me? My follower numbers are a very fluctuating number… but those meant for my circle are going to stay and stay involved with me.

    It’s funny because I have more concern and involved from blog people than my own family…

    My advice to you is just sit back and watch those who remain and those who slip away.

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    1. Well, I’m not going anywhere. Just so you know. I truly enjoy our conversations.

      I’ve actually done the “sit back and watch” thing with people. It’s hard but it really does show you where people are truly at.

      I’m sorry you’ve gone through these same trials, but know you have friends here. 💜

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      1. The Eclectic Contrarian September 13, 2019 — 11:10 am

        I appreciate you Heather! Not trying to be weird or whatever but I think we’re fairly understandable with each other.

        I’m here as long as you want me around!

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      2. You’re not being weird! I think we that we see life in fairly similar ways. It’s nice to find kindred spirits.

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  2. Yes, the tyre around my circle has gone down, but not everyone understands me, and my passion for writing. However those close to me are always very supportive, and I now realise you can’t force people to react favouribly towards you, for the different direction you are taking…..

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    1. Very true. I understand what you mean. Thank you for sharing, Ivor. And just so you know, I’m glad you are passionate about writing. I so enjoy your poetry! 😊


      1. Thank you Heather it’s nice hear…. that my writing is appreciated… 😊♥️

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  3. Hi Heather,

    I’m so glad I found your post. Everything you have written, resonates deeply with me. Thanks for sharing your heart. Blessings to you, your family, your circle of TRUE friends and your writing. 🙂


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    1. Hi there! I’m sorry I’m just now responding! I was really sick the past day and a half, so I’m just now catching up.
      Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I’m so happy to hear you felt touched by what you read. I always hope my own stories will resonate with my readers. I want them to know they’re not alone on their journeys!

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  4. You are so right. It’s important to let toxic people go. There are so many good people out there. I also don’t want any people in my life we don’t care about me and are only thinking about theirselves. finding the right tribe is the best thing 💕 im happy to have found you here. you also are part of that circle xxxx

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    1. You are part of my circle as well! 💜💜

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  5. I can relate. Sometimes it takes a while to get your best tribe together.

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  6. The Eclectic Contrarian October 17, 2019 — 8:54 pm

    Can I unofficially nominate you for my Tell The Story Challenge??

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    1. Ummmm….sure? 😂
      What’s the gig, lol?

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      1. The Eclectic Contrarian October 18, 2019 — 6:41 am

        My Tell The Story Challenge. You pick a picture out and write a story about what is going on in the picture. I think you’d do very well!

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      2. Oh okay. Is there like a “deadline” or anything? Where do I post it?

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      3. The Eclectic Contrarian October 18, 2019 — 11:01 am

        No deadline. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ I forget to post the rules… just pick a picture and write a story explaining the picture. Then nominate at least 3 people and choose pictures they can pick from.

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      4. Okay that sounds cool. I’ll see if I can get to that in the next couple days. Feeling a bit under the weather at the moment, which hinders the creative juices, lol.

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      5. The Eclectic Contrarian October 18, 2019 — 6:08 pm

        Take your time! And I hope you feel better!


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