Taken For Granted


If asked what I thought my greatest attribute might be, I know I would say loyalty. I love fiercely. If I decide you are my people, I will stick by your side, fight your battles with you, hold your hand when you cry, and do everything in my power to build you up.

I am a fiercely loyal friend…

Although I believe this is a special part of my character and makes me a great friend, I know it sometimes causes me a lot of heartache.

People change. Relationships change. Even when we don’t want it. We can fight against the inevitable, but it’s exactly that–inevitable.

As I’ve grown and matured as a human being, I’ve learned that sometimes, no matter how hard I try, I can’t fix what feels broken. I can’t make someone love me as fiercely as I love them, or force them to make the effort I truly want them to make for us to stay connected. I’ve learned that sometimes I just have to let go…

So I let it go…

A few times I’ve had someone come back at me and act as though the loss of relationship was my fault. A lack of effort on my part. And what I really want to say to them is exactly what the little photo at the top of my post says:

“Even the strongest feelings expire when ignored and taken for granted.”

How long was I supposed to wait for you to remember I was here? How many times was I supposed to let you trample all over my heart? How would you feel or react were the roles reversed? I waited and endured long past the point where most people give up. Just because I’m a loyal friend doesn’t mean I’m yours to ignore and take for granted.

If you are a fiercely loyal friend, let me reassure you, it’s okay to let go when your own heart is being trampled. Loyalty is not a willingness to let others take advantage of your soul.

If you‘ve overlooked a loyal friend, or taken them for granted, let me urge you to appreciate what you have before it slips away. After all, they’re only human, and the human heart can only endure so much before it crumbles.

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